EMDR Counselling: What Actually Happens in an EMDR Session
- shivaniwells
- Feb 10
- 2 min read
Many people who reach out about EMDR counselling are curious, hopeful, and understandably cautious. EMDR has a strong evidence base, but the process itself can feel unclear from the outside. A common question we hear is simple and important: what actually happens in an EMDR session?
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a trauma-informed therapy that helps the brain process experiences that were overwhelming at the time they occurred. When this processing does not happen fully, memories can remain stored in a fragmented way, continuing to affect the nervous system long after the event is over.
At Shivani Wells Therapy Group, EMDR counselling always begins with preparation. Before working directly with trauma, your therapist focuses on safety, stabilization, and understanding your nervous system. This may include learning grounding skills, identifying internal resources, and building trust in the therapeutic relationship. This phase is essential and is never rushed.
When you and your therapist decide it is the right time to begin EMDR processing, you will identify a target to work with. This could be a memory, a recurring emotional response, a body sensation, or a belief such as “I’m not safe” or “I’m too much.” You are not required to describe everything in detail. EMDR does not depend on retelling your story out loud.
During the processing phase, your therapist uses bilateral stimulation, such as guided eye movements or alternating taps. While this is happening, you are invited to simply notice what comes up. Thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, or images may shift naturally. Your therapist checks in regularly to help you stay grounded and supported.
Many clients notice that memories begin to feel more distant or less emotionally charged. New insights often emerge without effort. This is the brain doing what it is designed to do when given the right conditions.
Each EMDR session ends with grounding and integration. Your therapist will make sure you feel settled before leaving and will talk with you about how to care for yourself between sessions.
If you would like to talk things through or ask questions about EMDR, the team at Shivani Wells Therapy Group offers free consultations. This is a supportive, low-pressure space to share a bit about what you are experiencing and explore next steps together.
EMDR is not about erasing the past. It is about helping your nervous system recognize that the past is no longer happening, so you can respond to your life with more steadiness, connection, and choice.
