The Impacts of Stress and Trauma
Research shows that a number of mental health presentations including PTSD, anxiety, panic, depression, and addiction stem from stressful and traumatic experiences in our past. These experiences get dysfunctionally stored in the brain as "reliving experiences" rather than as regular memories. This means that when the memory is triggered, it feels like the stressful event is happening all over again. The body and nervous system remember, even if we aren't thinking about those past events.
Symptoms are not an indication that something is wrong with you but are rather your brain and body's attempt to adapt, survive, and cope. In other words, depression, anxiety, and other symptoms are happening for a good reason.
Our brains have an innate self-healing system, but this system can become blocked resulting in chronic symptoms. Research shows that EMDR therapy unblocks this self-healing system, transforms dysfunctionally stored memories into regular memories, and helps reach an adaptive resolution of symptoms.
Stressful and traumatic experiences may include:
Childhood physical, sexual, emotional abuse and neglect
History of bullying by siblings or peers
Events resulting in feelings of humiliation, shame, worthlessness, or hopelessness
Abandonment by a parent or loved one
Physical and sexual assault/non-consensual sex
Car accidents, slip-and-falls, and other accidents
Sudden loss of a loved one, miscarriage, or other losses
Experiences of racism and discrimination
These experiences can result in a variety of symptoms such as feeling shut down or numb, anxiety and panic, angry or critical voices in your head, fear of failure, substance use, people-pleasing, flashbacks, fears of sexual or emotional intimacy, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, feeling disconnected from your body, feelings of unworthiness and shame, and structural dissociation of the personality.
Areas of Specialization:
PTSD; single event shock traumas
Complex-PTSD; childhood developmental trauma
Anxiety and Panic
Grief and Loss
More than Just Talk Therapy
Feeling seen, heard, and believed is an important part of healing, but talk therapy alone is not effective in resolving trauma. While it is important for Shivani to understand your history and current experiences, telling and re-telling the details of traumatic experiences is not required for healing and may be counterproductive. This is why Shivani uses approaches that go beyond talk therapy and work with the brain, body, and nervous system to treat the underlying issues at their root.
What to Expect
You will be invited to be curious about your experience in the present moment by bringing mindful awareness to your sensations, thoughts, feelings, and breath. You will learn self-regulation skills to manage stress, anxiety, and big emotions. During the initial stage of therapy, your history of significant life events will be discussed, your childhood relationships with your caregivers/family will be discussed, and you will complete assessment questionnaires. Together we will develop a collaborative treatment plan to address your symptoms and meet your unique goals.
Shivani strives to work from a trauma-informed, feminist, LGBTQ+ affirmative, anti-racist lens and to create a brave therapeutic space where all people feel welcome, respected and seen. She uses a combination of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and Inner Child Reparenting.
EMDR uses bilateral stimulation through eye movements, tapping, or holding hand buzzers to stimulate your brain's innate ability to process traumatic memories and transform maladaptive negative beliefs into positive beliefs. EMDR is also used to reinforce adaptive information, develop inner resources, and desensitize fears of inner experiences.
Somatic Experiencing is a body-centered therapy that uses mindful awareness to elicit your nervous system's self-healing capacity. Shivani teaches clients somatic and mindfulness tools for self-regulation.
Inner Child Reparenting is Shivani's way of integrating various approaches, including the Theory of Structural Dissociation, Ego-State Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and EMDR. This work includes identifying wounded and protective parts of the self to make sense of triggers and reactions, strengthening the Adult Self, repairing attachment wounds, reducing internal conflicts, and facilitating inner harmony and collaboration. Many clients benefit from Inner Child Reparenting, and for some, this work is essential in preparing to receive standard EMDR therapy.